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18 June 2011, 07:10
A Father's Day Speech
Across the world, there will be various interpretations of Father's Day. I seek to provide mere perspective on this celebration. I have two opinions -- one for a father, the other a dad. Personally, a Dad has much more significance in a child's life. A father can just be a father; a title. This title can either be accepted or just labeled for biological purposes and something to fill the dotted line on a birth certificate and so forth. A dad is a man that can, not only father a child, but also be a role model that supports and appreciates his child with all the little or big things in between.
A baby's first words are always almost either 'mama' or 'dada'. This is just what I've experienced for myself. Some sort of impact must have been a leading influence for such a situation. A growing child, from infant to toddler, and from teen to adult requires some sort of parental influence whether it be prime or not. Now I'm not about to sugarcoat anything I've experienced, so pre-conceived thoughts are open to discussion. All my life I've had a father, sometimes I'd pretend he was more, but growing up to be the person I am today (fyi without his help), I've clearly established he is nothing more than just a father. I have my reasons and one reason is that I've never had the satisfaction of feeling loved or wanted by my apparent non-fatherly figure...
I wanted someone to look up to and believe I came from amazing roots. I wanted to wake up every morning and read the newspaper with my dad while sipping on some orange juice, discussing the headlines. I wanted to be that little girl who weeps for her daddy at night or during thunder storms. I wanted to wear those adorable t-shirts that praised dads. I wanted to tell any boy, who told me loved me, that my number one guy is and will always be my dad. I wanted so many things, but mainly I just wanted a dad.
I respect my parents completely. They brought me into this world and that counts for a lot. I honor my parents commitment to each other especially since their thirteen year old relationship has come a long way. Most of all, I admire my father for not allowing himself into the depth of being a dad for me because if things were much different than they are today, I wouldn't be who I am right now.
I've matured into this person that rides on optimism, but deals with negativity in a timely manner. I've learned to open my heart. I've learned to take baby steps into forgiveness in the event that apologies fly my way. I've learned that dads aren't requested of, they earn the title. I've learned that fathers don't automatically inherit the title Dad. And I've learned to use the word DAD.
Six months ago, I used the word Dad for the first time and didn't have to feel like I was pretending anymore. I've not only gained a family from being with Brandon, I've gained parents and most especially a Dad (just because it's Father's Day). I was in disbelief when I first uttered the word 'DAD' because this time, it actually had meaning. He's offered me advice, mixed with mild humor and lame jokes like dads I would see on television. He's been there for me. He's provided me assurance by always reassuring himself that I was more than okay. I had to say I was doing great or else he'd provide pick-me-ups. He's earned the title Dad and I've just now realized how important Father's Day is. So, Happy Daddy's Day to all the wonderful Dad's in the world. Bloodline or not. You'll know a Dad when you see one. Or in my case, gained one.
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